As of this week, I am 37 weeks pregnant, just over the 9-month mark, settling into the true home stretch. 37 weeks is always a welcome sight, as any delivery prior to that would automatically land baby in the Neonatal ICU, an experience I wouldn't wish to repeat or for my child to experience. Not that NICUs don't have their important purposes; it's just that my experience with Natalie in the NICU left a sour taste.
When Rachel was born, I was keenly intent on securing for myself and my child a birth experience that was the complete opposite of Natalie's: spontaneous, intervention-free to the extent possible, with little to no separation of mother and child, and a quick return home. I got everything I wanted in Rachel's birth, and a lot of healing, too. Even my chronic sciatica and related pelvic alignment issues resolved. I was very prepared, with a doula and my husband and parents and even a few neighbors ready to pitch in and help with childcare or any other support we needed.
This time around, going back to Austin Area Birthing Center felt like an obvious choice--we'd had such a good experience there with Rachel, there was no sense in changing anything.
I've realized, gradually, that I haven't put the same level of intention into the birth experience this time. I feel like I'm adequately prepared--the bassinet and carseat are ready to go, I have stocked up on diapers, receiving blankets, and all the birth-day necessities. My little suitcase is packed. We don't have a doula this time, but my husband and parents and neighbors are standing by. The girls are considerably older than Natalie was when Rachel was born, and they understand what's coming and can be of genuine help if they choose. They're capable of getting things for themselves, taking care of their own basic needs, and entertaining themselves and each other. That alone is a huge difference between this time and last.
Still, it occurs to me that every birth is different. Last time, true labor started at around 7AM, which was just about perfect--I hadn't had a wonderful night's sleep, but I had slept, and I went into the whole process with about as much energy as I could possibly have. I delivered her in the jacuzzi at 12:30PM. Rachel was born just 2 days before her due date, which is pretty ideal timing. There were a few funky details--we had to take a couple of extra precautions to avoid my transmitting Group B Strep to her, and she had some facial bruising following the delivery that made for some discoloration and swelling we had to keep an eye on. She was on jaundice watch at home, but she never developed jaundice. Otherwise, her birth was about as easy as I could have possibly hoped for. Nursing was uncomfortable at first, but she gained weight and we gradually improved at it until it was truly easy.
This time, any number of things could be different. I could go into labor at the end of the day and deliver in the middle of the night. Labor could take longer. Labor could come on and progress so quickly that we don't make it to the birthing center in time. There could be a train stalled on the train tracks between my house and the birthing center (a remote, but real possibility). This little baby boy could be significantly bigger or smaller than the girls (though no one has expressed concern about his size either way). The baby or I could develop some sort of complication that would necessitate a hospital transport, even a C-section or a NICU stay. Anything could happen.
I'll try to expect the unexpected, prepare for the worst and hope for the best. I'm truly not worried; I just feel like I am better prepared if I consider a range of possibilities. Cautious optimism, you could call it.
I've had bouts of Braxton Hicks contractions and aches and sudden pains that stop me in my tracks, on and off since my last prenatal appointment. I can't know for sure, but it feels like my body is preparing itself earlier this time. I don't know whether or not that will mean a birth well before the due date. Perhaps being in my third pregnancy, I just know my body's signs more acutely.
However he makes his entrance to the world, I very much look forward to meeting him, to look at his alien newborn face, to search his eyes, to stroke his soft hair, to gaze at his tiny articulated fingers.
Tuesday, June 17, 2014
Tuesday, May 6, 2014
The Home Stretch
This post is just my taking a moment to savor and appreciate the relative simplicity we have now.
Two preschool-aged girls, baby on the way, two months to go. The girls are wrapping up their year at The Butterfly Garden, which has been a wonderful experience all around. They'll participate in a couple of summer camps there, but in the fall Natalie will start Kindergarten(!) at Davis Elementary. She and I were over there this morning filling out registration paperwork during Kindergarten Round-up.
I'm still working part-time for CompareMetrics. That has worked out beautifully so far, though I don't know when I'll be back after maternity leave. I start my leave on 6/15. It's hard to imagine working 20 hours/week with a newborn and a preschooler at home, but who knows, it might work out better than I fear.
A new sibling can't help but make for a big family transition, and I'm trying to go into it with appreciation for the balance we know now, willing to let go and embrace whatever the next phase brings.
I vividly remember my last few weeks of pregnancy with Rachel, when it dawned on me that my one-on-one days with Natalie were winding to a close. It was bittersweet. I watched her sweet, bouncy 18-month-old steps and treasured her cute little voice. I read books with her in my ever-shrinking lap, and snuggled her close.
I was excited to meet Rachel, and I'm excited to meet this next little guy. No, we still don't have a name picked out. We've been even busier than we usually are, and just haven't had time to sit down and make a list of names for serious consideration.
This time, I've been very slow to gear up and carve out a nursery space for the little guy. Friends have been so generous with clothes, so I feel like we're well covered in that regard. I still need to get an infant carseat, and probably an Ergo, too. Rachel lived in the Ergo for the first six months. A good friend gave us her single stroller--the single strollers of Natalie's baby days are long gone, and we didn't want to go back to using the double strollers if we can avoid it. Too much potential for sibling squabbles, I think.
Excitement and chaos is surely coming. Long, hard days are coming. It'll be great, in its own way, but I'm happy to savor the relatively slow, predictable calm of today.
Our A/C flaked out last night. The happy ending was that Rob was able to get it fixed by this morning, and the HVAC folks came out but didn't charge us when everything was working. But last night we had no choice but to sleep with the windows open and breezes blowing through the house. I tried to sleep in our master bedroom, on the front of the house, but couldn't sleep through the occasional loud zoom of a car or motorcycle careening down our long, sloped street. When I switched to the guest room, all was peaceful and surprisingly comfortable. I only awoke when I heard Rachel crying in the middle of the night, and ended up bringing her into the guest room to sleep with me. We slept a few more hours, then I gradually awoke to the rustle of thousands of leaves and the gradual building of birdsongs. It was a lovely way to wake up. Savoring...
Two preschool-aged girls, baby on the way, two months to go. The girls are wrapping up their year at The Butterfly Garden, which has been a wonderful experience all around. They'll participate in a couple of summer camps there, but in the fall Natalie will start Kindergarten(!) at Davis Elementary. She and I were over there this morning filling out registration paperwork during Kindergarten Round-up.
I'm still working part-time for CompareMetrics. That has worked out beautifully so far, though I don't know when I'll be back after maternity leave. I start my leave on 6/15. It's hard to imagine working 20 hours/week with a newborn and a preschooler at home, but who knows, it might work out better than I fear.
A new sibling can't help but make for a big family transition, and I'm trying to go into it with appreciation for the balance we know now, willing to let go and embrace whatever the next phase brings.
I vividly remember my last few weeks of pregnancy with Rachel, when it dawned on me that my one-on-one days with Natalie were winding to a close. It was bittersweet. I watched her sweet, bouncy 18-month-old steps and treasured her cute little voice. I read books with her in my ever-shrinking lap, and snuggled her close.
I was excited to meet Rachel, and I'm excited to meet this next little guy. No, we still don't have a name picked out. We've been even busier than we usually are, and just haven't had time to sit down and make a list of names for serious consideration.
This time, I've been very slow to gear up and carve out a nursery space for the little guy. Friends have been so generous with clothes, so I feel like we're well covered in that regard. I still need to get an infant carseat, and probably an Ergo, too. Rachel lived in the Ergo for the first six months. A good friend gave us her single stroller--the single strollers of Natalie's baby days are long gone, and we didn't want to go back to using the double strollers if we can avoid it. Too much potential for sibling squabbles, I think.
Excitement and chaos is surely coming. Long, hard days are coming. It'll be great, in its own way, but I'm happy to savor the relatively slow, predictable calm of today.
Our A/C flaked out last night. The happy ending was that Rob was able to get it fixed by this morning, and the HVAC folks came out but didn't charge us when everything was working. But last night we had no choice but to sleep with the windows open and breezes blowing through the house. I tried to sleep in our master bedroom, on the front of the house, but couldn't sleep through the occasional loud zoom of a car or motorcycle careening down our long, sloped street. When I switched to the guest room, all was peaceful and surprisingly comfortable. I only awoke when I heard Rachel crying in the middle of the night, and ended up bringing her into the guest room to sleep with me. We slept a few more hours, then I gradually awoke to the rustle of thousands of leaves and the gradual building of birdsongs. It was a lovely way to wake up. Savoring...
Tuesday, March 11, 2014
Acceptable losses
Hi there,
Did I mention that Linton baby #3 is on the way, due July 5th? And it's a boy? Yeah. Cool, and daunting at the same time.
But not that daunting. After all, we've done this twice already. We have established our family culture, for better or worse.
Sometimes I find myself trying to push back the cobwebs in my memory to remember the newborn days with Natalie and later Rachel, and remember what we've learned so far.
This morning as I was cleaning up the breakfast dishes, I came across a cold bowl of oatmeal with only one or two bites missing. Ah-ha, acceptable losses. In my early days as a parent, I would have fretted over that bowl. I would have inwardly berated myself for letting my kids waste food, or scolded myself for not doing enough to encourage them to eat it. Outwardly I might have tried to coax (or drag) a reluctant kid back to the table to finish it. Or put it in the fridge and presented it later, insisting that they finish it before eating something else. And I did win a few of those battles, but the repeated experience taught me that 5 cents' worth of oatmeal isn't worth spending my energy on. I put it in the compost bucket and move on.
With oatmeal in particular, the girls treasure the morning ritual around it. Sometimes they eat the whole bowl. Most times they eat some and leave some in the bowl. Some days, like today, they take a bite or two and forget about the rest. I ask them to bring their used dishes to the counter when they finish their food. I've calmly repeated this instruction the requisite 1,000 times, and now they often (but not always) do it unprompted. In the case of the girls' putting their dishes on the counter, I've decided through repeat interactions that it is worth my time to ask them to clean up after themselves, even though it's often easier for me to do it myself.
I've had similar internal and external battles over wasted water, sand, toilet paper, construction paper, etc. There's a gradual cost-benefit analysis that happens, and I eventually decide whether to choose that battle or not. I reserve the right to change my mind, too.
As an 18-month-old, Rachel used to rip plants out of my garden. If you know how much I love plants and gardening, you know that was an ultimate character test. I failed a few times (found myself yelling at her) before I got better at coping. Eventually, I designated "okay to cut" plants and spots where she could dig in the dirt and pull things up. And if she pulls up something I care about, I take a deep breath and calmly remind her which plants are okay to pull, which are not. If I really can't take it, we all go back inside.
Above all, I no longer beat myself up over wasted materials. "It's the cost of doing business," one might say, when it comes to being a stay-at-home parent. I have a little bit of an environmentalist streak, as well as an efficiency streak, that used to really make me cringe at all the waste. I can say now, 4.5 years into the whole parenting thing, with two kids and another on the way, I am over it.
I remind myself that I make up for that wastefulness in other ways. I shower every other day (not because I'm so conscientious--I'm just comfortable with that routine and I don't feel dirty until 48 hours post-shower. But I can still take credit.) I set good examples by reusing items when possible, without being a hoarder about it. I compost and recycle. We don't upsize--we are keeping the not-so-big house that we have, in the neighborhood that we love.
"Don't sweat the small stuff" applies here, but it's not specific enough for me. I had to figure out what was actually small to me, and what was big. Harmony in the household is big. Spills are small. Teaching my kids to clean up after themselves is big. Their doing it perfectly or immediately is small.
What do I want them to teach their kids as they raise them? That should be a guiding question in my mind as I tackle these minor aggravations. I want them to be able to rise above their minor aggravations and value the relationship above all.
Every increment to the family is a bump up in the level of chaos and minor aggravations, sometimes major ones. Another ball in the air for the juggling act. Hey, it'll make me a better juggler. And, turns out, I love kids. (We're stopping at 3, though!)
Did I mention that Linton baby #3 is on the way, due July 5th? And it's a boy? Yeah. Cool, and daunting at the same time.
But not that daunting. After all, we've done this twice already. We have established our family culture, for better or worse.
Sometimes I find myself trying to push back the cobwebs in my memory to remember the newborn days with Natalie and later Rachel, and remember what we've learned so far.
This morning as I was cleaning up the breakfast dishes, I came across a cold bowl of oatmeal with only one or two bites missing. Ah-ha, acceptable losses. In my early days as a parent, I would have fretted over that bowl. I would have inwardly berated myself for letting my kids waste food, or scolded myself for not doing enough to encourage them to eat it. Outwardly I might have tried to coax (or drag) a reluctant kid back to the table to finish it. Or put it in the fridge and presented it later, insisting that they finish it before eating something else. And I did win a few of those battles, but the repeated experience taught me that 5 cents' worth of oatmeal isn't worth spending my energy on. I put it in the compost bucket and move on.
With oatmeal in particular, the girls treasure the morning ritual around it. Sometimes they eat the whole bowl. Most times they eat some and leave some in the bowl. Some days, like today, they take a bite or two and forget about the rest. I ask them to bring their used dishes to the counter when they finish their food. I've calmly repeated this instruction the requisite 1,000 times, and now they often (but not always) do it unprompted. In the case of the girls' putting their dishes on the counter, I've decided through repeat interactions that it is worth my time to ask them to clean up after themselves, even though it's often easier for me to do it myself.
I've had similar internal and external battles over wasted water, sand, toilet paper, construction paper, etc. There's a gradual cost-benefit analysis that happens, and I eventually decide whether to choose that battle or not. I reserve the right to change my mind, too.
As an 18-month-old, Rachel used to rip plants out of my garden. If you know how much I love plants and gardening, you know that was an ultimate character test. I failed a few times (found myself yelling at her) before I got better at coping. Eventually, I designated "okay to cut" plants and spots where she could dig in the dirt and pull things up. And if she pulls up something I care about, I take a deep breath and calmly remind her which plants are okay to pull, which are not. If I really can't take it, we all go back inside.
Above all, I no longer beat myself up over wasted materials. "It's the cost of doing business," one might say, when it comes to being a stay-at-home parent. I have a little bit of an environmentalist streak, as well as an efficiency streak, that used to really make me cringe at all the waste. I can say now, 4.5 years into the whole parenting thing, with two kids and another on the way, I am over it.
I remind myself that I make up for that wastefulness in other ways. I shower every other day (not because I'm so conscientious--I'm just comfortable with that routine and I don't feel dirty until 48 hours post-shower. But I can still take credit.) I set good examples by reusing items when possible, without being a hoarder about it. I compost and recycle. We don't upsize--we are keeping the not-so-big house that we have, in the neighborhood that we love.
"Don't sweat the small stuff" applies here, but it's not specific enough for me. I had to figure out what was actually small to me, and what was big. Harmony in the household is big. Spills are small. Teaching my kids to clean up after themselves is big. Their doing it perfectly or immediately is small.
What do I want them to teach their kids as they raise them? That should be a guiding question in my mind as I tackle these minor aggravations. I want them to be able to rise above their minor aggravations and value the relationship above all.
Every increment to the family is a bump up in the level of chaos and minor aggravations, sometimes major ones. Another ball in the air for the juggling act. Hey, it'll make me a better juggler. And, turns out, I love kids. (We're stopping at 3, though!)
Friday, January 31, 2014
Late night update
Well, this is a long overdue update, isn't it?
I'm up in the middle of the night, as I am every night lately, thanks to lingering congestion from this year's round of Cedar Fever. Oh, and I'm pregnant. That might have something to do with the congestion, too.
Yeah, wow, Linton baby #3 is on the way! The due date is July 5, 2014. Natalie is now 4-1/2, and Rachel's 3rd birthday is coming up mid-February. They'll be 5 and 3-1/2, respectively, when the baby arrives. Of course, I don't know how things will play out. It's never easy having a baby, but I think this time it might be somewhat easier than when I had Rachel, when Natalie was 19 months old, and not in any kind of childcare program. The girls go to preschool Monday-Wednesday-Friday now. I have a part-time, work-from-home job now, since almost a year ago. Lots of things have changed.
To answer the obvious baby questions: No, this was not an accident. We did this on purpose. We're hoping for a healthy, happy baby, and gender isn't much of a factor for us. Lots of people want us to have a boy, since we already have two girls. We won't be able to find out what we're having for at least a week, at the 18-week appointment, or possibly a month after that, at the 22-week appointment. Maybe I can sweet talk the midwife at the birthing center into giving me a quick sonogram to take a peek at gender next time, but even if we do that, there are no guarantees that we'll be able to tell. Early on in this pregnancy, I felt like it was a boy. Over the past few days, I've been thinking it's a girl. I think I even dreamed about having another girl, though my dreams are chaotic lately and it's hard to remember where the line falls between thoughts and dreams.
Other than the regular midnight allergy party, and a few predictable aches and pains, this has been a problem-free pregnancy. Thank God. That's never a guarantee with any pregnancy, and my heart goes out to all the women who have suffered losses, and those who have endured high-risk and/or extremely uncomfortable pregnancies.
This time, unlike when I was pregnant with Rachel, I haven't felt like I've been pregnant forever. Roughly 3 years in between was a nice break.
I don't know what will happen with my job when baby #3 comes along. Well, I know I'll take some form of unpaid maternity leave when the baby arrives, because just surviving the early days will take all of my physical and mental energy. But beyond that, I don't know how the balance will shift. Natalie will start Kindergarten in the fall. Hard to believe I'm typing that; the years truly are short, even as the days are long. I will most likely keep Rachel in the Butterfly Garden, the preschool that the girls and I have both loved. There will be plenty of one-on-one time between baby and me on those days when the girls are both in school. That will be a nice change from when Rachel was born.
Rachel and Natalie are so closely bonded. It will be an adjustment for Rachel when Natalie goes to Kindergarten; they've rarely been apart for more than a few hours at a time. Heck, they seem to grow bored and miss each other even when they're just separated by naps. Even that is exceedingly rare; they still take a nap at the same time every day. Well, most days. I don't know how we have held on to naps this long. I've held on for dear life, even though I'm sure I'll adjust when that sweet nap time comes to an end.
Rachel said one day recently, "I don't need friends. I just want Natalie." It was in the context of a conversation with me about school and schoolmates. Rachel has a big independent streak, and doesn't seem to crave social interaction the same way Natalie does. Rachel definitely has her social side, too, it's just not necessarily her default mode. As with just about everything else in life, Rachel wants to socialize on her own terms.
They've grown up so much. They're showing their capabilities in so many ways. Natalie has taken a huge leap forward in patience, forbearance, grace. She's penitent when she thinks she's done something wrong. The other day, she sulked off to her room after I (gently, I hope) called her out for snatching food off Rachel's plate. Rachel had yelped in protest. I told Natalie, as I often do, that she wouldn't like it if Rachel took her food. When Natalie left the room, I thought she was upset with me for calling her out. Five minutes later, she emerged with a sunny look on her face from her room, and I asked her if we could chat. She nodded yes. I sat her on my lap and asked her if she was upset with me for telling her not to take Rachel's food. To my surprise, she answered that she was mad at herself for taking Rachel's food. I told her that we all make mistakes and lose control sometimes. I also told her that there is so much I admire about her, that she's become so patient, so kind and giving. She brightened. We hugged and she went on about her day.
It surprises me that they're not at the point of vying for equal treatment. I remember so many, "it's not fair! He got more than me!" moments between my younger brother and me. Maybe the girls haven't hit that stage yet.
I see that it's 3:30, and that's the time I usually pick to go back to bed, hoping that the Benadryl will kick in by the time I'm no longer vertical. I sleep somewhat elevated. "Sleep" is the optimistic term, but it will be rest, and rest is better than nothing. I'm actually more at peace with this insomnia than I have been with insomnia in years. Somehow it's just easier to accept the less savory parts of reality these days. Since I had kids, maybe. Or perhaps it's part of growing older. Whatever it is, I like it.
I'm up in the middle of the night, as I am every night lately, thanks to lingering congestion from this year's round of Cedar Fever. Oh, and I'm pregnant. That might have something to do with the congestion, too.
Yeah, wow, Linton baby #3 is on the way! The due date is July 5, 2014. Natalie is now 4-1/2, and Rachel's 3rd birthday is coming up mid-February. They'll be 5 and 3-1/2, respectively, when the baby arrives. Of course, I don't know how things will play out. It's never easy having a baby, but I think this time it might be somewhat easier than when I had Rachel, when Natalie was 19 months old, and not in any kind of childcare program. The girls go to preschool Monday-Wednesday-Friday now. I have a part-time, work-from-home job now, since almost a year ago. Lots of things have changed.
To answer the obvious baby questions: No, this was not an accident. We did this on purpose. We're hoping for a healthy, happy baby, and gender isn't much of a factor for us. Lots of people want us to have a boy, since we already have two girls. We won't be able to find out what we're having for at least a week, at the 18-week appointment, or possibly a month after that, at the 22-week appointment. Maybe I can sweet talk the midwife at the birthing center into giving me a quick sonogram to take a peek at gender next time, but even if we do that, there are no guarantees that we'll be able to tell. Early on in this pregnancy, I felt like it was a boy. Over the past few days, I've been thinking it's a girl. I think I even dreamed about having another girl, though my dreams are chaotic lately and it's hard to remember where the line falls between thoughts and dreams.
Other than the regular midnight allergy party, and a few predictable aches and pains, this has been a problem-free pregnancy. Thank God. That's never a guarantee with any pregnancy, and my heart goes out to all the women who have suffered losses, and those who have endured high-risk and/or extremely uncomfortable pregnancies.
This time, unlike when I was pregnant with Rachel, I haven't felt like I've been pregnant forever. Roughly 3 years in between was a nice break.
I don't know what will happen with my job when baby #3 comes along. Well, I know I'll take some form of unpaid maternity leave when the baby arrives, because just surviving the early days will take all of my physical and mental energy. But beyond that, I don't know how the balance will shift. Natalie will start Kindergarten in the fall. Hard to believe I'm typing that; the years truly are short, even as the days are long. I will most likely keep Rachel in the Butterfly Garden, the preschool that the girls and I have both loved. There will be plenty of one-on-one time between baby and me on those days when the girls are both in school. That will be a nice change from when Rachel was born.
Rachel and Natalie are so closely bonded. It will be an adjustment for Rachel when Natalie goes to Kindergarten; they've rarely been apart for more than a few hours at a time. Heck, they seem to grow bored and miss each other even when they're just separated by naps. Even that is exceedingly rare; they still take a nap at the same time every day. Well, most days. I don't know how we have held on to naps this long. I've held on for dear life, even though I'm sure I'll adjust when that sweet nap time comes to an end.
Rachel said one day recently, "I don't need friends. I just want Natalie." It was in the context of a conversation with me about school and schoolmates. Rachel has a big independent streak, and doesn't seem to crave social interaction the same way Natalie does. Rachel definitely has her social side, too, it's just not necessarily her default mode. As with just about everything else in life, Rachel wants to socialize on her own terms.
They've grown up so much. They're showing their capabilities in so many ways. Natalie has taken a huge leap forward in patience, forbearance, grace. She's penitent when she thinks she's done something wrong. The other day, she sulked off to her room after I (gently, I hope) called her out for snatching food off Rachel's plate. Rachel had yelped in protest. I told Natalie, as I often do, that she wouldn't like it if Rachel took her food. When Natalie left the room, I thought she was upset with me for calling her out. Five minutes later, she emerged with a sunny look on her face from her room, and I asked her if we could chat. She nodded yes. I sat her on my lap and asked her if she was upset with me for telling her not to take Rachel's food. To my surprise, she answered that she was mad at herself for taking Rachel's food. I told her that we all make mistakes and lose control sometimes. I also told her that there is so much I admire about her, that she's become so patient, so kind and giving. She brightened. We hugged and she went on about her day.
It surprises me that they're not at the point of vying for equal treatment. I remember so many, "it's not fair! He got more than me!" moments between my younger brother and me. Maybe the girls haven't hit that stage yet.
I see that it's 3:30, and that's the time I usually pick to go back to bed, hoping that the Benadryl will kick in by the time I'm no longer vertical. I sleep somewhat elevated. "Sleep" is the optimistic term, but it will be rest, and rest is better than nothing. I'm actually more at peace with this insomnia than I have been with insomnia in years. Somehow it's just easier to accept the less savory parts of reality these days. Since I had kids, maybe. Or perhaps it's part of growing older. Whatever it is, I like it.
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Natalie the photographer
I've been blessed with a free iPhone 4, and I think Natalie is as excited about it as I am. She loves to take photos, so I thought I'd share a few. I love to see what she captures.
I think this was the inside of a white shelf. The close-ups are often the most mysterious.
Still life of a baby doll on a play dining table. Note "Daddy pirate" drawing on the whiteboard in the background.
Hi, Mom!
Playroom shelves... in motion?
Hi again.
Miscellaneous playroom close-ups.
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Stuff my kids say
In the car, pulling out of the driveway.
Rachel: "I want more!"
Me: "More what?"
Rachel: "I don't know."
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At home in the kitchen, Natalie was holding a soiled Pull-up.
Rob: "Go put that in the Diaper Genie, please, Natalie."
Natalie: "But it's my choo choo bag!"
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We were playing with neighbor kid, Rhett, at the neighborhood park. Rhett sat down, upset--group play with a big bouncy ball was not to his liking. Rachel approached Rhett and squatted down next to him.
Rachel: "What's wrong, Rhett? Why you sad?"
Rachel: "I want more!"
Me: "More what?"
Rachel: "I don't know."
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At home in the kitchen, Natalie was holding a soiled Pull-up.
Rob: "Go put that in the Diaper Genie, please, Natalie."
Natalie: "But it's my choo choo bag!"
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We were playing with neighbor kid, Rhett, at the neighborhood park. Rhett sat down, upset--group play with a big bouncy ball was not to his liking. Rachel approached Rhett and squatted down next to him.
Rachel: "What's wrong, Rhett? Why you sad?"
Saturday, September 22, 2012
The Big Trip, Part 3: Louisville & Nashville
The evening of Monday, July 25th, we set out at 7PM in our rental
Hyundai Sonata for what we feared might be a 6+ hour trip to
Louisville. We hoped the girls would sleep for most of it. They didn't. But thanks, Granny, for loaning us the iPad--it definitely came in handy.
We saw the Gateway Arch as we sailed down I-64, then crossed the bridge into East St Louis. We made it through, unscathed. East St. Louis looks like what SimCity looks like when you are losing the game.
Fortunately, southern Indiana, though heavily populated with corn, is very sparsely populated by humans, so we sailed through in a mere four hours. It was an uneventful drive, save for an awkward pee-by-the-highway moment with Natalie. With so many miles between each exit, it was either pull over or have her pee in the rental car/seat. Ah, boys have it so much easier.
At around 11PM, we arrived at the disappointing Red Roof Inn near my brother-in-law's house and crawled into the scratchy, questionable sheets for a relatively good night's sleep.
It's not that the Red Roof Inn is so horrible, or that we even had rude neighbors or anything disgusting enough to brag about. It's just--we're used to fairly nice hotels, the kind that have actual hallways and don't reek of cigarettes several years after they were declared non-smoking. And all those news stories in the past few years about the return of bedbugs added up to my feeling too creeped out to sleep well.
So after convincing Rob not to stick this one out, I cancelled the remainder of our reservation. Rob and his brother David quickly found a much nicer hotel (Ramada) for us, last minute, at $2 more per night. Score!
Visiting with my in-laws in Louisville for a week seemed like a daunting proposal. We have two toddler girls. They have two boys, an 11-year-old and a 13-year-old. Then there are the grandparents and my other sister-in-law in town with her husband and 17-year-old son. They are all-around sweet and loving folks, but what would the girls do when they couldn't play with the older boys? Wouldn't the older boys shun them and keep to themselves?
As soon as we walked in the door at David and Carol's house the morning after our late arrival, Natalie and Rachel strode into the kitchen and Tyler and Jacob walked in and high-fived them, like they were best friends from down the street. I was amazed. They got along famously the entire time. The boys were so interested in the girls, so great about playing with them gently, making them giggle, making sure they didn't get hurt. These guys are going to make terrific dads.
Rob and I also thought we wouldn't get out much while we were in Louisville. Wrong! We all went to a community center with a great pool (zero entry, fountains, huge water slides) one day. Afterwards we all went to a Mexican restaurant, where several of these pics were taken.
The next day we all went to a rock climbing gym, where Tyler and Jacob were Spidermen--they've obviously been doing this for a while, and defied gravity impressively. The girls enjoyed the bouldering section, when we could snag a bit of it--the gym was packed on a 100+ degree day.
Carol, Jane and I learned how to belay (manage the rope for the person climbing.) David offered to belay while Rob and I took turns climbing. The girls hated being separated from either of us, but got into the spirit of cheering us on when they looked up and saw how high we were climbing. It was exhilarating.
On one of the last nights of the trip, we conspired with the adults of the family to all meet at our hotel after the girls went to sleep. We took shifts watching the girls, sneaking downstairs afterwards to hang out, drink beer and play Cornhole and shoot pool in the lobby.
We also celebrated Natalie's 3rd birthday on our last day in Louisville. I don't know where those pics are at the moment, but it was a sweet and special little party. My wonderful sister-in-law, Carol, took me to Target to pick up supplies and shop for birthday presents. We bought her a pretty white cake with white icing (her favorite) and blue, purple and turquoise roses. I showered her in girly Mardi Gras beads. She enjoyed all the books and sweet gifts from the Linton family. It was a poignant moment and culmination of our trip. Now that she's 3(!), I think she will remember this birthday and talk about it in the years to come.
We said our warm goodbyes, gathered our increased load of luggage, and followed Jane down I-65 to Nashville, our last stop. We had two nights and a day to spend there before we would board the plane to return to Austin. Again, I thought we wouldn't do much.
I underestimated our capacity to go all out and have a great time.
The afternoon we arrived, went swimming at the hotel. At night, I got to go out (all by myself!) to Jane's house to meet Mary, her sweetheart. We played Wizard, a fun twist on an ordinary card game.
The next day, we all headed out to breakfast at Bob Evans near Opryland, then to a lovely park with a couple of playscape, a nature center and a great rustic outdoor play area. I wish I could remember the name. This park also hooked up to/included a bike trail that winds around the city for miles.
Rob did the double pole slide.
Rachel continued perfecting her stair descent.
Jane showed off her skills on the barrel roll.
Rachel is getting sleee-pyyyy...
After a glorious nap, we ventured out again, this time to the Adventure Science Center. Austin has a Children's Museum somewhat similar in concept to this, but Nashville's version is bigger, with a planetarium and a 5-story rocketship atrium.
It is so cool to be a kid these days!
Natalie boards the bus.
Rachel spent quality time absorbed in this simple Lego table, all by herself (well, except for me) in the toddler zone.
After dinner at Logan's Steakhouse, Jane showed us the way to Centennial Park, home of an impressive Parthenon replica.
A breakdancing DJ entertained the small crowd with 70's funk hits and lots of smooth moves. Natalie joined him on the plywood dance floor. I wish one of those photos had come out! She was in her element, I tell you.
Mmm, snowcones...
Really, after such a long and eventful trip, being away from home for two weeks, with a shifting array of strangers who really want to get to know you... who wouldn't have a tantrum? It was a quick, bright hot blaze, and then it was over.
We
danced and made yoga pose shadows on the sunlit walls of the Parthenon.
We meandered across the great green lawn to the huge shaded playscape
across the street.
We played our hearts out, and the girls had a great time getting to know their Aunt Jane, one on one.
We saw the Gateway Arch as we sailed down I-64, then crossed the bridge into East St Louis. We made it through, unscathed. East St. Louis looks like what SimCity looks like when you are losing the game.
Fortunately, southern Indiana, though heavily populated with corn, is very sparsely populated by humans, so we sailed through in a mere four hours. It was an uneventful drive, save for an awkward pee-by-the-highway moment with Natalie. With so many miles between each exit, it was either pull over or have her pee in the rental car/seat. Ah, boys have it so much easier.
At around 11PM, we arrived at the disappointing Red Roof Inn near my brother-in-law's house and crawled into the scratchy, questionable sheets for a relatively good night's sleep.
It's not that the Red Roof Inn is so horrible, or that we even had rude neighbors or anything disgusting enough to brag about. It's just--we're used to fairly nice hotels, the kind that have actual hallways and don't reek of cigarettes several years after they were declared non-smoking. And all those news stories in the past few years about the return of bedbugs added up to my feeling too creeped out to sleep well.
So after convincing Rob not to stick this one out, I cancelled the remainder of our reservation. Rob and his brother David quickly found a much nicer hotel (Ramada) for us, last minute, at $2 more per night. Score!
As soon as we walked in the door at David and Carol's house the morning after our late arrival, Natalie and Rachel strode into the kitchen and Tyler and Jacob walked in and high-fived them, like they were best friends from down the street. I was amazed. They got along famously the entire time. The boys were so interested in the girls, so great about playing with them gently, making them giggle, making sure they didn't get hurt. These guys are going to make terrific dads.
Rob and I also thought we wouldn't get out much while we were in Louisville. Wrong! We all went to a community center with a great pool (zero entry, fountains, huge water slides) one day. Afterwards we all went to a Mexican restaurant, where several of these pics were taken.
The next day we all went to a rock climbing gym, where Tyler and Jacob were Spidermen--they've obviously been doing this for a while, and defied gravity impressively. The girls enjoyed the bouldering section, when we could snag a bit of it--the gym was packed on a 100+ degree day.
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| My sister-in-law, Deb Stone |
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| The Linton Siblings |
We also celebrated Natalie's 3rd birthday on our last day in Louisville. I don't know where those pics are at the moment, but it was a sweet and special little party. My wonderful sister-in-law, Carol, took me to Target to pick up supplies and shop for birthday presents. We bought her a pretty white cake with white icing (her favorite) and blue, purple and turquoise roses. I showered her in girly Mardi Gras beads. She enjoyed all the books and sweet gifts from the Linton family. It was a poignant moment and culmination of our trip. Now that she's 3(!), I think she will remember this birthday and talk about it in the years to come.
Rob did the double pole slide.
We headed back to the hotel (a very nice Holiday Inn) for our daily scheduled nap. This was something we started in Louisville that really made the trip, in terms of our overall mood and energy. No way could we have pulled off all the activities without those naps, and still had a shred of sanity left at the end of it.
After a glorious nap, we ventured out again, this time to the Adventure Science Center. Austin has a Children's Museum somewhat similar in concept to this, but Nashville's version is bigger, with a planetarium and a 5-story rocketship atrium.
It is so cool to be a kid these days!
Natalie boards the bus.
A breakdancing DJ entertained the small crowd with 70's funk hits and lots of smooth moves. Natalie joined him on the plywood dance floor. I wish one of those photos had come out! She was in her element, I tell you.
Shortly after this picture was taken, Rachel got extremely frustrated with the snowcone situation, and Rob chucked a snowcone into the water. Rachel proceeded to have her first real tantrum, accompanied by Earth, Wind and Fire. Stomp, rage, cry, repeat. I followed her and tried to be empathic and let her do her thing. She started calming down when she noticed a flowering shrub and stopped to inspect it. An onlooker stopped and remarked, "that's your scientist there!" What a moment! Joy, fun and pain all rolled into one.
Really, after such a long and eventful trip, being away from home for two weeks, with a shifting array of strangers who really want to get to know you... who wouldn't have a tantrum? It was a quick, bright hot blaze, and then it was over.
We played our hearts out, and the girls had a great time getting to know their Aunt Jane, one on one.
The next morning we got up at 6AM, packed up in the best unhurried rush we could muster, and headed to the airport. A few minor hassles later, we were on our way home. A two-hour plane ride seemed like nothing after the huge, exciting two weeks we had.
It was such a great trip!
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